I'm of the suspicion that the latest lidocaine infusion did not go at all well. I had pain at the site, which is a first, and by the time I had Wolf take it out, I was just about in tears from pain/pressure. I felt foggy and just disconnected, with pressure in my chest.
No, I didn't go to the Drs or the ER. Go ahead and smack me if you need to.
I'm going to try the infusion again. If I get a repeat, I will go in.
Anyways...Saturday night. Wolf kept trying to send me to bed. I loathe when he does this, as it makes me feel like a child, and simply doesn't work. He says he does it because he knows I need extra sleep, so it frustrates him when I'm not taking advantage of the situation and heading to bed early.
I went to bed around 2 am. Fell asleep. About 20 minutes later, I woke up, screaming into my pillow. I had a Charley horse. In my bicep. Of my bad arm, of course.
I made it downstairs, and spent about 3 hrs clenching my teeth, biting the blanket, screaming in my throat, praying not to scream out loud and wake up the house. Sitting perfectly still...any involuntary twitch of my fingers set the Charley horse off screaming all over again.
Kids got up at 540 am, followed shortly by Wolf.
First thing he did was yell at me, telling me to go to bed, giving me crap for staying up all night. Yeah, like I did it deliberately. I told him I had a Charley horse in my arm, but he ignored me, and continued to complain that he'd had plans for some 'alone time' that afternoon, and now he couldn't go.
I had no clue he was planning on going out.
Honestly, at that point, I had visions of chucking my coffee at his head. Still in the mug.
Luckily, I'm not a violent person, and really, REALLY like my mug.
I took a moment...several moments...until I was able to speak coherently, and not go into a flying rage.
I went outside, where he was sitting, and in the quietest voice possible, explained exactly what I'd gone through the night before, and that him throwing a tantrum over plans he hadn't even made, let alone told me about, was ridiculous. There was probably more said, but that's what it boiled down to.
Honestly, in seven years, its the first time I could completely visualize him moving out...complete with what I'd say and do to get to that point and beyond. Not good. Not good at all.
I went to bed around 8 am. Yes, he'd apologized several times before I went to bed, but I wasn't caring.
Waking up at 730 pm, I was just in time to put the kids to bed. I was amazed that I hadn't been woken up earlier, like around 4 pm.
I was back in bed by 9.
I feel better about life in general, and my marriage in particular right now. Arm is still not back to normal, but at least the Charley horse isn't in spasm.
I have a picture I keep by my computer, to help me in my anger towards Wolf, to let me let go of it, and get on with my marriage.
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